Modesty: it doesn’t mean being a clown

Being modest doesn’t mean being a clown!

Sister, do you really believe covering your body with hijab means to wear the first thing you find in your closet, with horrendous combinations of colours, its shoulders reaching your elbows? Does this look like the best way to dress to you?
Are you really convinced that conceiling yourself from prying eyes is to wear shapeless clothes, with poor tissues, combining colours with no rule whatsoever?
Are you aware that by covering yourself and wearing hijab, you do not only cover your body, but you can also attract negative attention and put in evidence your shortcomings?
If you do not give importance to your figure, which should be delicate and refined, if you think that modesty means slovenliness, then, my dear sister, this article could be interesting for you.
Follow us through this, we’d like to give you some helpful advice.
Verde Jennah has been writing about modesty for some time now, which is a very important value for us muslim women. We’ve been talking about it profusely and we know well that it is not just an external value, an issue of lenghts, adherence, trasparence.
Haya in arabic is especially a virtue of the heart; it is a fundamental part of the faith and it encompasses the concepts of modesty, dignity, honor, umility, respect for themselves and for others.
Clothing is, therefore, just a manifestation of this virtue which makes itself visible also through behaviour and language; that is the crown of a muslim woman.
For this very reason, being modest does not mean to mortify one’s look, or worse, to appair slovenly and neglected. Besides, there is a huge difference beetween wanting to attract attention and have a well-groomed and decorous appearance.
You should know that beauty is a characteristic of Allah Subhana Wa Ta’Ala. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, was himself gifted with great beauty, and he stated: “Allah is beautiful and He loves beauty” (Sahih Muslim, 911).
Certainly, in muslimas (and muslims) true beauty is not just given by a mixture of physical traits, but it is first and foremost an exterior expression of virtue and love of God. It is also true, however, that the caring of our person, the search for good taste and equilibrium of shapes and colours help us express at its best those interior attributes.
A problem that afflicts many of us is, for example, the choice of clothing utterly not suited for our body shape. We try not to evidence the curves, but we may end up wearing clothes that evidence our shortcomings. Learning to wear clothes fitting for our body it’s important to appear elegant but also modest.
What can we do?
We know that most women have a corporal shape that fits four big categories, called, as simplification, “rectangular”, “apple-shaped”, “pear-shaped” and “hourglass figure”. What clothing fits any of this categories?
The women belonging to the first category are, so to speak, the most fortunate. They are slender, willowy, have shoulders and thigs of the same width, and therefore, can wear almost anything. Large dresses suit them particularly, just like large and flared pants. They can also put vests and shirts inside of the pants or skirts without touching the modesty of the outfit.
Apple-shaped women, who want to thin the waist, look best with tunics or empire style clothing. When using a skirt they should choose vests that are not too long avoiding to put them inside of the lower piece of clothing.
Pear-shaped women need to minimize the thigs without pointing out the waist, for modesty needs. Best choices include flared skirts with a high waist, and chromatic games, like for example, to wear a dark piece of clothing on the lower part and a light one in the upper part.
Finally, hourglass shaped women have the most trouble covering up their curves. To maintain modesty without mortify herself, the hourglass shaped woman can choose long vests with a smooth line and use use jackets on skirts and pants.
Choosing how to wrap up the hijab can also be done according to our face shape. The ones with a perfect oval (which is, let’s be honest, ideal) can simply wrap it around their face to get a nice effect, while she who has a rectangular shape will have to be careful to uncover the forehead and eyebrows to create a lenghtening effect. Women with a round face should do best to leave their hijab loose on cheeks and chin; on the other hand, if you have a square-shaped face you should create a rounder shape on the forehead to create an ovalizing effect.
Combining colours also plays an important role. There are people who combine colours naturally, while others struggle. If you belong to the second category, you can follow some simple rules. First, never combine: more than three colours together, two colours of the same category (i.e: two primary colours) and different gradations of the same colour, unless their tone is completely different. A winning move is to choose as a base a jolly colour, like black, white or beige, and combine a vivid colour (for your shirt, jacket, accessories, hijab, or shoes…). The choice is also dependant on your skin tone: blondes with a light skin are suited for bright tones, blue and black, while dark haired are suited for light colours (white, beige, silver) but also little sprites of vivid colours (pure red, fuchsia).
There are of course exceptions to these small rules of good taste, but eventual bold combinations of colours must be done with a keen eye and, normally, are best left to high fashion stylists. As for strong tones and bold colours, it is important that they are worn by women with strong personality, who are able to “carry” those nuances with no effort and confidence.
In conclusion, my dear sister, you have a lot of possibilities to make sure that your clothing and exterior look are an expression of your virtue and inner equilibrium. By taking care of your looks the right way, you can become an example of modesty and dignity also for people not of your same faith. Especially in Europe and in the West, where your hijab distinguishes you and makes you immediately recognizable, you will be able to testify, with your virtuous elegance and your poise, to the grace and beauty that are an integral part of your faith.
Stay tuned with us because we are going to deepen these topics even more.

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